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Monday, December 7, 2009

The Last Goodbye



Thank you followers, readers, commenters for the time you spend with us each week. We appreciate all of your kind words, encouragement, and you make our blogging experience so fulfilling. Have a wonderful week!

Love, Holly & Charisse

34 comments:

Ms Bibi said...

What a great vlog. You are so true. You should not take anyone or anything for granted.

Since my hubs started working away from home and we don't see him for weeks I've been thinking about that every time he leaves. Now, I make sure that he leaves knowing how much he's loved and missed.

Lee the Hot Flash Queen said...

Holly your hair looks great!! Did you get it straitened??

our b life said...

I can't help but love your vlog that went from serious to funny all in the same few minutes it was showing. I agree about leaving and loving as it was your last. The holidays remind us of that. Sometimes if u don't see the truth right in front of your face, it will go ahead a bitch slap you across the face and that really hurts!!! ha ha

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LMJ said...

I think about that all the time as my husband travels a lot. He is in France right now, so I made sure I e-mail him with I love you's all the time. We talk on the phone, but his cell phone doesn't really work sometimes, so we used skype a lot.

I always tell Hubby that if I die, I want to be cremated. After I went through a funeral planning, I realized it was too much work. Cremation is easier and cheaper. He knows all my good organs go to all the ones that need them.

When he's overseas, I always pray that he's ok; that some criminal won't take advantage that he's not familiar with the country and take advantage of him. I don't know. It's such a relief when he calls me. I know he's made it safely to the hotel. He's driving there too, I pray he doesn't have a car accident.

Now, I don't know which is Cherisse and which is Holly (I you were to hear me say your name most of the time it comes out of Hally--unless I slow down and think before I say it), but I too, kept thinking the Michael Jackson would pop out alive any day.

Love your vlogs as usual. I can finally see the videos. I had some kind a java thing restrict in my computer.

Daffy said...

While I am unable to watch your video, I can deduce some from the comments already made.

Once I get the chance to see this I'm sure it will hit very close to home. A friend and coworker of mine was in a terrible auto accident Thanksgiving weekend. She hit two other cars head on before rolling her own vehicle. Her husband died at the scene and she is still in a drug induced coma with serious but stable injuries. I can't even imagine...I'm pretty sure she doesn't know her husband has died. She was planning on retiring this year and she and her husband were returning from their lake house - soon to have been retirement home.

Martha in PA said...

Great subject. It is very important to me to not leave anything unsaid with those I love. I've lost people close to me when I was younger and I still felt like I had things to say, and still I don't feel "closure" with those relationships. On the other hand, I felt much more at peace (still heart broken though) when my Dad took ill and passed very unexpectedly, when I was 27, as I knew he knew what he meant to me, and how much I loved him. It was during the holidays in 1985, so this year brings back both happy and sad memories.

Tiffany said...

a cousin that i was very closed to died in 2001 at 19 from leukemia. i won't get into it, but, i never went to visit her in the hospital b/c i'm selfish and i couldn't handle it. i talked to her on the phone about a few weeks before she died. we talked about a madonna concert she went to. there were no real goobyes though, but knowing her, I think that's how she preferred it.

Ed Adams said...

Have fun girls.

I Wonder Wye said...

Life is precious. Savor it. I was so hurt by the people who never contacted me after I had my surgeries...one was a boss I was close to, and he never contacted me after one brain surgery -- a few years later he confided he couldn't address it because his daughter had died of a brain tumor and it just hit him so hard when he saw me going through the same thing. So you just never know....

Sue (Someone's Mom) said...

The older you get the more frightening this becomes. We have formed a group of my high school class on facebook...we are up to 24 gone. I didn't have a clue about most of them because I've been gone from there for a long time. We've added a few in the past months...we keep a list and someone posts a name and then the number. Creepy. I've lost a couple of friends very suddenly-both heart attacks. One was older than I was (but not much older than I am now) and she died while I was on vacation. The other was my age and went to work and died. You really never know...but, I don't think about it well.

Sue

Patrice S. said...

Vlogs are great! (but not when I'm at work).

:(

Corrie Howe said...

Personally, I'm at the age where I can't see anything that close to my face. I'd have to move it out a little to see it. :-)

Raoulysgirl said...

We just got a phone call when we returned from picking our daughter up from school. My MIL passed away. It was not unexpected...she was nearing 90...but still...not a time when we are prepped to lose someone.

Great post...with a wonderful message.

5thsister said...

You guys are great. It's funny but I've been contemplating my own mortality of late. I get that pain in the breast and automatically think the Big C. Or because I'm not remembering things very well I must have early onset Alzheimers!

Your commentary on TRUTH was the best. "Even a blind man sees truth when it's this close" Priceless and clever. Working in the field I do, far too often I encounter families who refuse to face the truth, the inevitable. It is so sad, really. Especially when you never know if this is the last time you'll see your loved one alive.

And only 2 weeks ago, when Mr. Sister totaled his car. Wow...what a big wake up call that was. So you see, this subject has also been weighing on my mind. Thanks for this vlog!

Ed Adams said...

Okay, okay, You got me.

I can't see the vlogs at work, but I still wanted to let you know that I stopped by.

I just went back and watched it from home.

I can tell you how thrilled I am with that particular topic. *extreme sarcasm*

Now, I'm off to find my happy place.

Liz in Virginia said...

I have a postcard on my refrigerator that says, "You never know when you are making a memory." I think about this every time I let my kids out of the car at school, especially if it has been a struggle to get there! It takes 1.7 seconds to say, "I love you! Have a great day!" But what if that's the last thing they hear from me?

Liz @ twentyfirstcenturyhousewife.blogspot.com

MJ said...

You girls did a great job of covering a really tough subject.
As a family, we are struggling with this after my Uncle's sudden passing. I know of at least 3 family members who if knowing the last time they saw him really was the last time, they would have acted totally different.
We need to treat each moment as the precious gift it is.

Midday Escapades said...

Life is certainly is precious and I try to remind my kids every day. Saying love you in the morning and at night and a kiss when they let me. You just never know when that is going to be the last time.

Healthy Shift Worker said...

A great post girls! We only get one life and one chance to look after it so we need to treasure every single day!

Funny in my mind said...

I agree with all of this. Today is the 2 year marker for my mom's death. I wish I had known at the time that I was going to lose her so I could have spent more time talking to her.

ScoMan said...

I think the music is the only part of my funeral I plan. The rest, well that's for someone else to worry about.

I think this is an important message at this time of year, because there will be a lot of people seeing family who they won't see now until next Christmas and next Christmas they might not be there, so we should value the time we spend with them this year.

Thank you for the reminder.

My name is PJ. said...

Wow, this was more of intense subject to have us all thinking about, Ladies! Bravo!

I did have a weird chuckle when Holly talked about watching a father leave with his suitcase the last time...I did that when I was little. What made me laugh is the 'perspective' it can give us can also be referred to as 'abandonment issues'. It's kinda funny to me.....

Together We Save said...

Great post!! Love the vlog.

Erin said...

Thoughtful vlog today and I wish I could do my own! Oh well, will have to live vicariously through you two amazing ladies!

Ms Bibi said...

It's me again....I just stopped by to wish Charisse Happy Name Day

kys said...

I thought the same thing about Michael Jackson! Great vlog today, gals!

Faith Imagined said...

Another great vlog! You guys are awesome to watch! Very funny and moving at the same time! Thanks for sharing this! Very important for us all to never take our loved ones for granted!

Kristin said...

EEEEK, I need to give the hubs a big hug and kiss tonight!!

Holly said...

This is one of the best vlogs ever! Not just because Holly has a super-cute new do! I always remember this one night my grandpa left our house..my brother was getting to be a big boy and didn't want to kiss other men good-bye. He pitched a fit, my parents forced him...t was a huge to-do...my grandpa died and that was the last time we saw him. It haunts me....I never asked my brother if he remembers.

Jenn Erickson said...

Right back at ya ladies! I've missed you! It's been a hectic and crazy few weeks.

Midday Escapades said...

Happy Name Day Charisse (visiting from Ms. Bibi's place).

Cynthia@RunningWithLetters said...

As someone who has struggled with moderate to severe hypochondria my whole life, it is refreshing to know that normal people plan their funerals, too. I think about mortality all the time, but I never know how much of that is "normal."

I know I'm late to the conversation, but I'm still getting caught up on all my favorite blogs...

Two Normal Moms said...

So true!
***Ally