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Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Valuing Friendship

Healthy friendships are so important because we all long to be known. We can't and shouldn't depend on our spouse to be our only source of comfort and care. Friendships add a richness to our lives as we share everything from our hurts to our humor. Here Charisse and I discuss what we look for in a great friendship.



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29 comments:

Liz in Virginia said...

You really struck a chord with me today (yesterday?). My friends are the source of so much strength for me. Charisse is right about some friends who are NOT uplifting -- it reminded me of "Bridget Jones's Diary," in the book -- she talks about jellyfish friends, who sting you so gently that you don't even know how badly you're hurt until after they've moved on.

And I watched "Murder, She Wrote" and "Wings." Every single day.

Love you, girls!

-- Liz @ twenty-firstcenturyhousewife.blogspot.com

Tiffany said...

i told someone yesterday that i'm an equal opportunity employer when it comes to friends. which i am. but a friend should make you almost pee your pants laughing every once in a while. my best girlfriends and i laugh all the time. babies and life got in the way and now we no longer live near each other...i miss them with my whole heart...

Fairy Footprints said...

You guys have so much chemistry on your video. You are such great friends that is wonderful.

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Frau said...

friends to me are someone you can be yourself with. I miss my friends in Utah so much. Thank god for the Internet and IM . Germany is not the friendliest place on earth. Today at the wine store the checker was s nice I wanted to stay all day and chat! Sad uh?

Erin said...

I love my girlfriends. I don't know what I'd do without them (drive my hubby crazy for sure!). I love your vlogs and seeing you in action, interacting, just being your normal selves. So cool!

Ms Bibi said...

Yes, I had my share of friends who were not good for me. I am happy to report that they are gone.

As I got older I realized quality is better then quantity. My best friend makes me laugh a lot, but she can be serious when I need her to be. She knows my bad side and she's still around.

Price is Right was my show of choice as well. I miss Bob.

You two remind me of me and my BFF.

Purple Flowers said...

I sincerely believe that girlfriends at no matter what stage in life are so valuable to a woman's soul and spirit. My Mom is 88 years old and still has a few girlfriends.

Lee the Hot Flash Queen said...

I agree, you need your girlfriends. Never make your spouse your best friend. They can come and go, friendship lasts forever. Just my opinion if anyone wants to jump down my throat, please refrain!

Tattoos and Teething Rings said...

I've always had way more guy friends, not sure why, but I found the relationships easier and more fun. Girls always seemed like too much drama; it wasn't until I became a mom that my female friendships became important. But, still dealing with the drama sometimes.

LMJ said...

My spouse is my best friend, but I have a best girlfriend as well. I believe, as a woman, I need my BFF to lean on when Hubby acts like an ass; someone you can vent about Hubby with.

I don't understand women who can't do stuff without their man.

5thsister said...

Oh my...I used to be one of those "serious" people. Actually, I'm still fairly serious and overly analytical but I've learned to go with the flow and poke a little fun at myself! I had to. I married Mr. Sister who was the 1st man to really make me laugh!

Cynthia@RunningWithLetters said...

I So agree with Charisse: I've felt a little lacking in the humor department for the past week or so--I thrive on humor and when it's lacking, things are just off kilter.

And Holly, I think you've inspired me to start praying for more more close friendships. My sister is my best girlfriend, but she lives 7 hours away. Two other of my best friends moved about a year ago and even though I still see them, I need to develop a closer network of local people that go beyond causal friendship/acquaintance level.

Allyson said...

you two are so adorable! and so right. we need a variety of friends...i think more of the 'peeing in your pants' kind is the best. :)

ps: thanks for the shoutout today! i feel special. awwww

happy wednesday!

jennifer said...

It has been difficult for me to open up to new people since we moved because leaving friends behind was so painful. Blogging has helped (why yes, I am sitting here in my pajamas reading blogs and pretending I'm social) because I still feel somewhat connected and not like a total hermit.

I enjoyed your video!

Martha in PA said...

Another great video! I don't spend enough time with friends.... I had moved away and now I'm back and need to rebuild those connections. Most of my friends have grown children, and I've got a tween that consumes my days!! It's hard to carve out me time being a single mom!

Kristin said...

True friends are few and far between. I've learned to treasure them!

Sue (Someone's Mom) said...

This is so true and while it is funny to watch the two of you, it really is a serious subject. My friends haven't always been like me (I'm one of a kind for sure) but they have always been in the same place in life that I am...until this last move of ours. Here, my friends are much younger, still have very young children and are doing things I've already done. I gloat quite a bit. Actually, it was hard for me to adjust to being the "mom" of the group, but obviously it is just my calling these days. Plus, they keep me young!

Sue

Two Normal Moms said...

You HAVE to have good girlfriends to share laughter at "life" with. I don't think I could survive without them!
***Ally

MJ said...

first - on your VLOG vs ARTICLE poll you need a third option - BOTH. I think that there is such a nice balance between your articles and Vlogs - it keeps me interested (not that you girls don't do a well enough job on your own)

second - I am the serious, analytical friend and I HATE IT. But it is the only way I know how to be. *sob* Friendship is very important in life, but you have to be willing to open up and take risks.

thank you girls for yet another wonderful post

SPEAKING FROM THE CRIB said...

i would be no where without my friends

no where

Corrie Howe said...

I have to agree with everything you wrote and said today. As the wife of a leader in our church, I tell the women that God didn't intend their husbands meet all their needs. (Of course, God wants us to know He'll meet all their needs but He's given us others too.) God is a relational God, He is in perfect relationship with Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I thought "The Shack" brought this point out very well.

Rook No. 17 said...

True blue friends are hard to come by, and are worth their weight in gold. What I've missed, during certain periods of my life, is having the type of friend that will call you out of the blue -- not because they need something, or out of guilt or obligation, but "just because" -- maybe they saw something that made them think of you. Maybe they heard something hilarious that they just had to share with you. Maybe it's because they haven't seen you in a few days and just missed hearing your voice. It's nice to have a friend like that.

BTW, Ladies, I know that blog awards can be a real timesuck, so it's with some apology that I tell you that I've given you an award on Rook No. 17.

ScoMan said...

I tried once to train a bunch of people to be like me. An army of me, I though it's just what the world needed.

And a few people could be easily manipulated, and they became me.. and that really annoyed me because I lost my identity.

So yes, friends just like you is not a good thing.

My name is PJ. said...

From where I sit, people misuse the terms 'friend' and 'friendship' to include scads of people to whom neither word applies.

A friend is someone who will stop everything and fly hundreds of miles when things are tough, without asking, "What can I do?" or "Do I need to come?" A friend already knows the answers to those questions and more.

We have acquaintences and neighbors and co-workers by the dozens, but if we have a handful of friends in our lifetime, we are TRULY BLESSED. :)

blueviolet said...

Plinko reminds me of Connect Four. Similar?

I think friendships definitely fill a need for us as women and as moms. I can't imagine not having them.

Holly said...

i {heart} my friends (and having been working on a post about friends!). I have some really great friends...some that I have known forever and we don't talk every week or sometimes even every month, but they are the friends that I know will be there if I need them!

Cameron said...

good friendships are SO crucial as you get older, I do think fun friends, even if they are not funny, are pretty important....if they are not "fun" or at the very least super duper interesting, I'm not sure that it will last!
Cameron
www.conquerthemonkey.com

Heather of the EO said...

I can't listen to the video right now because I'm at Dunn Bros and it's super loud in here...so I'll try to come back later. But for now, I just wanted to say that I couldn't agree more. I'd probly divorce my husband without my friends in my life.:) I need them! They're my sisterhood :)

The girl with the flour in her hair said...

The good thing about non-funny friends? They think I'm hilarious. It's a good ego boost.

I love you guys. :)