I saw in her a former me that was now knee deep in motherhood. So busy keeping little people safe that there wasn't time to unearth the part of me that was always looking for an adventure. A longing began to grip me.
Fast forward one year later. It's my 40th birthday celebration and 6 friends have flown to Maui to join me. I've never, in 10 years, left my family for an entire week! One morning we wake up, take in large quantities of Kaanapali coffee, watch the ocean for signs of whale pods, and someone suggests that we go surfing! I feel a swarm of bees, not gentle butterflies, in my stomach. There was an exuberance among these treasured friends that I had never seen, and we all basked in the excitement of taking part in something new, a little dangerous, certainly outside our comfort zone. We screamed and cheered for each other as one by one each woman successfully stood on their board and rode the wave.
If you are a busy wife and mother then probably you are also knee deep in family and community responsibilities. These are all worthy things to spend your energy on, but without time to reconnect to yourself it is easy to feel depleted.
So here is my challenge for you. Think about what makes you feel alive. It doesn't have to be dangerous, but it should give you butterflies to think about it. Maybe it's entering a race, taking a class, starting a business, riding a horse, finding a new hobby, whatever it is...get out there and do it. When you realize how good you feel, you'll be empowered to try the next thing. Each time realizing that with every risk there is an opportunity to explore more of who you are.
One year later my family is back in Maui, and I spend the better part of an afternoon teaching my husband and two of my kids how to surf. It's not just a surf lesson. I'm modeling an appreciation for life, and hopefully the message is getting across to my daughter that no matter what age she is, all of life's adventures are still there waiting for her. A surge of joy courses through my veins, and once again I feel free and alive.
Consider what is holding you back. Is it fear, a lack of belief in yourself, busyness, or something else that is stopping you from remembering who you were before you took on the roles you have now? Then plan a day, or an hour, to dream. Make a list of ideas that intrigue you and take action. Ignore the negative voices in your head because they're stupid and they're lying! Grab a friend to do it with you if you need encouragement. Because whatever it is...you really CAN DO IT! Carpe Diem friends!
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